On a matter of basic human nature, we are forever in a quest looking for the best version of life. The ‘Perfect Fit’, is a dream and a goal. It’s what we aim to achieve. The perfect job, the perfect partner, the perfect house and the perfect image of what life, is supposed to look like.
Cinderella became a princess because the glass slipper fit. Find the perfect shoe and you’ll have a good life. That’s one way to look at it but most of us fall short of such a goal due to our expectations or lack of. And maybe that’s a good thing, because while we may aim for perfection, we sometimes miss out on a few basic yet essential aspects of life.
Perfection isn’t the end game nor is it the means to an end. It is just an ideal in our heads and the source of our determination. Thus when you fall short of that ideal, you can either plummet in a free fall or brace yourself. While you may not have got the perfect image or the perfect job, you still have your identity and a set of skills, which will prevent you from plummeting.
So you may not have achieved perfection but you have worked hard enough to make a space in the world and call it your own. It may not necessarily be the lifestyle you wished for but it is more than comfortable. And why so? Because it’s the result of those line of choices, streaming from endless self-conflicting debates, logical analysis and compromise. Further, compromise isn’t a bad thing at all. It is not the ‘safe choice’ or the ‘cowardly one’. You’re not “settling” but rather you are displaying the courage to make a decision, which will make the climb to success a little steeper.
You may not have found your glass slipper yet and maybe you never will, but what’s to stop you from doing the job in a good ole pair of sneakers? So ask yourself this,
Do you want to walk a mile in the perfect shoes or the right ones?
30 June, 2017
Am I Achieving Enough? & Other Anxieties - By Hedwig
“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel” – Steven Furtick.
In a world that’s increasingly centred around being productive, and where “I’m busy” is slowly growing to become a vague, vacuous phrase with no actual meaning, it’s hard not to feel like you’re not achieving as much as you should be. Social media is saturated with posts that your friends share of their newly published articles in peer reviewed journals, or pictures from the time they met Meryl Streep, or #throwback to the time they cured cancer.
Facebook gives me a complex. There, I said it.
The only reason I have not disentangled myself from that social interaction melting pot laden with narcissism and insecurity is because it does come in handy. I have over a hundred easy-quick-1-minute-DIY-Do-It-Yourself-Recipe/Fix-Your-Own-House/Make-Your-Own-Crafts/Entertain-Your-Own-Toddler recipe videos saved on Facebook. These I have saved despite living eight months out of a year in a dormitory with no kitchen, having no reason to be making my own “outdoor fire pit” and definitely not having a toddler in need of entertainment. But, if you give it serious though, where else am I going to be given a platform to accumulate information that I’m never going to use? Pinterest? That requires so much more dedication; dedication I do not have. And besides, Pinterest doesn’t help you feel simultaneously inferior.
Think about it: if a tree falls in a forest, but no one Snapchats it, did it really happen?
It is easy to lose sight of yourself in a world that induces you to keep rebranding who “you” are. A hundred different threads might call out to you, as might deep sorrow and despair at the fact that you were a seven year old with lofty ambitions who after a punch in the gut from life has turned into a self-doubting ball of nerves whose consistent worry is not amounting to anything. You might intrinsically judge yourself for not working as hard as you should, or for taking that 6 PM tea break because the weather was beautiful without even posting a twenty second video to Instagram.
Living life off social media need not be an exception; it can be the norm. Maybe it just means that your friends are always with you, and so you don’t need an application to keep in touch with them. Maybe it means you’re spending less time glued to your phone and more time giving meaning to the phrase “I’m busy”. Curate a metric for who you are and the things you enjoy doing. The more people you have as friends online, the more you might feel the pressure build.
And the next time you get an Article published in a Peer Review Journal, I know what you’ll do.
Post it to Facebook and tag a million people, obviously.